Tuesday, September 25, 2007

50 Promises for Marriage

As most of you know, my DH and I are attending a marriage workshop, studying the book of Solomon, at church. The following was poasted by Joan on her blog and by Kat on her blog. I have copied it to share with you, but also to share with our workshop group. I hope you take time out to do as many of these as possible in your marriage.
50 Promises for Marriage
1. Start each day with a kiss.
2. Wear your wedding ring at all times.
3. Date once a week.
4. Accept differences.
5. Be polite.
6. Be gentle.
7. Give gifts.
8. Smile often.
9. Touch.
10. Talk about dreams.
11. Select a song that can be "our song".
12. Give back rubs.
13. Laugh together.
14. Send a card for no reason.
15. do what the other person wants before he or she asks.
16. Listen.
17. Encourage.
18. Do it his or her way.
19. Know his or her needs.
20. Fix the other person's breakfast.
21. Compliment twice a day.
22. Call during the day.
23. Slow down.
24. Hold hands.
25. Cuddle.
26. Ask for each other's opinion.
27. Show respect.
28. Welcome the other person home.
29. Look your best.
30. Wink at each other.
31. Celebrate birthdays in a big way.
32. Apologize.
33. Forgive.
34. Set up a romantic getaway.
35. Ask, "What can I do to make you happier?".
36. Be positive.
37. Be kind.
38. Be vulnerable.
39. Respond quickly to the other person's request.
40. Talk about your love.
41. Reminisce about your favorite times together.
42. Treat each other's friends and relatives with courtesy.
43. Send flowers every Valentine's day and anniversary.
44. Admit when wrong.
45. Be sensitive to each other's sexual desires.
46. Pray for each other daily.
47. Watch sunsets together.
48. Say "I love you" frequently.
49. End the day with a hug.
50. Seek outside help when needed.


Karen said...

Thanks for putting this post up! This morning my hard working hubby was feeling so crook, so I took the children out for the whole morning - from early thru' lunch to give him some rare time alone. In the past I've been anxious about taking both kids out - they are 6 and 4, due to some fussing, or potential dramas, but I had to overcome my selfishness, to give hubby that break and trust the Lord to help me with the kids - he so did and I'm grateful, and that hubby valued his break. It is all too easy to think of him as the 'strong' one and overlook that he has needs for peace and chill out time.

justabeachkat said...

Thanks! After almost 30 years of marriage, George and I have gotten pretty good at most of these, but there's always room for improvement :-)


Sandy McTier said...

Fabulous post!
I'm gonna print it and keep it in my nightstand top drawer as a reminder. I LOVE being married to my man!!
Have a blessed day.
Sandy :)

iRocket said...

This is a nice list. As much as I would like to subscribe to such a notion as these promises are, I think its far more important to understand and accept that men and women are different for a reason. I also think it would be an injustice to constain a relationship by promises (or list of "standard" promises) that will inevitably be used as ammo later to define how someone else has failed you. This list would also be a temptation to qualify a spouses worthiness unfairly without understanding your spouses nature. I can't see a man having created this list, but it might be insightful to have your husbands create a list. I think this would bring a better understanding of the opposite sex and take us down a path to understanding your spouse rather than molding a spouse into a fantasy.

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joan said...

Hi Jennifer,
Just got back and checking in on everyone. Hope you are doing well. Glad you like the 50 promises. I can't say my hubby and I do all of them but I like to think we try.

joan said...

Hi Jennifer,
I just gave you another award. Can't help it, I do so like your blog. Go over and get it if you want. Hope you are doing well.

Ally´s Antics said...

I like this list too... I´d like to think that my husband and I do this stuff without really thinking abou tit, but Its good somtimes to see it and yes I agree with the comment that these things should not be there to condemn or "rate" our spouses to rather to spurr us on to be better ...